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4 Ways to Know You Have Self-Esteem Issues

4 Ways to Know You Have Self-Esteem Issues

The amount of confidence that a person has for himself or herself affects their goals, relationships, or happiness. Possessing little self-esteem can make a person feel depressed, unmotivated, and tolerate abusive situations or relationships. Having high self-esteem will make a person feel confident and much happier with their choices, whether they are bad or good. However, there is a way to be too confident and arrogant. Having low self-esteem or too high of self-esteem can lead to trouble. Here are some ways to know if you have self-esteem issues.

1)Self-Conscious

You are aware of your surroundings, wanting to know how others perceive you as a person. This can make you feel nervous or embarrassed of yourself. You start to doubt who you are as a person and think consistent, negative conclusions. Then, you will want someone to guide through your life because you are doubtful that you can have meaningful life choices.

2)Relationships

Being self-conscious in you puts in a very emotional state. You work hard to make sure that the relationships that you made for friends isn’t broken. If there is a problem going on between your friends, you tried the best you can to fix and seek forgiveness, since you blame yourself for the conflict. You lie to you friends saying that you are naturally this amazing person that they see, but that is not the real you.

3)Setbacks

Everyone experiences setbacks in life whether it’s a job loss, being overworked, constructive criticism, grief, or financial crisis. The way to you would cope it is to self-blame, which is a negative reaction. Again, you feel self-conscious, not being able to get a valuable feedback or problem solve the situation at hand. Setbacks grow more and become more permanent and destructive for you.

4)Indecisive

Having setbacks and being self-conscious can lead you to make chronically wrong choices in life. You don’t exactly know what to do with your life and you self-doubt and analyze all of your life’s decisions. You ask others their opinions on what you should do and require constant reassurance. Your decisions don’t reflect on what you want, but you fear that making a mistake will make you stuck in one place.

It’s important to know if you have self-esteem issues in order to prevent depression or self-harm. Don’t hide who you are on the inside because you will regret not letting other people see the real you. You will regret the decisions you make because you followed what your friends or other people say. You control your life, no one else. Be proud of yourself not matter how obnoxious or narcissistic you think you are because you will find that everyone thinks differently and well some might think the same as you. Find people that will respect who you are as a person and that you can count  on for advice from time to time.

There are over 7 billion people in the world and probably only 1/500th of those people you will know as a friend and the others will not know that you exist. Don’t be ashamed to show who you are because there will be other people that may be as strange as you. Every person has different types of interest that you are not so familiar with, so open yourself up. You might discover more about who you are yourself.

Footnotes:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/having-sex-wanting-intimacy/201609/4-ways-determine-if-you-have-self-esteem-issues

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/self-esteem


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